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Finding that Home for the Holidays Feeling

Day 10 – Finding that ‘Home for the Holidays’ Feeling when Everything is Different

Finding that Home for the Holidays Feeling

 

I remember the first time I saw Santa Claus in a swimsuit. Not a pretty sight. It was our first Christmas in South Africa, and we were walking through a local mall. There before us was a Christmas display showing Santa on a surfboard with board shorts and sunglasses. [gasp]

SOOO wrong on so many levels.

Erwin and I looked at each other and said, “We’re not in Kansas anymore, Toto.”

We were about to experience a VERY DIFFERENT Christmas.  

 

SHOCK #1 – SWELTERING HEAT

What a shock to experience a HOT Christmas on this side of the planet. We’d only ever known the snowy, cold Christmases in Canada—freezing temperatures, warm fires in the fireplace, ice skating and tobogganing, and hot apple cider to warm up afterward.

Snow wasn’t an inconvenience—it was our friend. Read more

Day 9 - Connecting in the Busyness

Day 9 – Connecting in the Busyness (Come Back to Me)

Day 9 - Connecting in the Busyness

 

Have you ever gotten the feeling that the person you’re sitting with isn’t REALLY present? I mean, they’re physically present, but they’ve checked out mentally and emotionally?

“Hellooooooo?” … I’m here.

“Where did you go?” … Nowhere. I’m here.

“Come back to me, honey.” … What are you talking about? I’m here!

Except Elvis has left the building.

Yeah, I think we’ve all ‘checked out’ at one point or another. I know I’m guilty of it, especially when my kids are trying to get my attention and I’m focused on my ‘to do’ list. You know, those days when even “Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom,” doesn’t cut through the noise in your head.

Can you relate?   Read more

Day 7 - No Excuses

Day 7 – No More Excuses! No One Can MAKE you mad!

Day 7 - No Excuses

 

//  Doesn’t it just make you MAD when grown adults behave badly and make excuses for it, whether that be in the school parking lot, on social media, or driving around traffic circles?

‘Seriously!? Stay in your blinkin’ lane, lady!’

You’d think that a traffic circle was a new phenomenon around here. It’s like the whole country becomes confused when the roadway wraps itself around a pretty garden.

‘I don’t know where to go.’

It doesn’t help that city developers designed many of them with one lane in and two lanes out. So, of course, it makes perfect sense for the Average Jo to go ALL the way around in the outside lane and ignore everyone in the inside lane who should have the right-of-way. What was he thinking?

‘But I didn’t know…’

‘But I changed my mind…’

‘But I don’t care…’

On our way to and from school, there are a whopping six traffic circles, and it is a rare day when I don’t get cut off by at least one person who is oblivious to their surroundings. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve narrowly missed being creamed by some guy in a taxi. //

So, what does one do when you can’t control other people’s driving habits?

MAKE A GAME OF IT, of course!

We have started counting how many days in a row we get cut off by someone. Right now, our record is sitting at 15 days. I’m not sure what the reward will be when we get to 20, but at least our anger level has dropped.

I can’t change their driving, but I can change my anger.

I can’t fix the world around me, but I can change my response to it.

No excuses… bad drivers cannot MAKE me be what I choose not to be. No one holds a remote control over my life saying, ‘Be angry, be depressed, be lazy.’

No, my friends. We can choose.

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I’m reading a fantastic book right now on this subject…

 

Book Cover - Keep Your Love On

Danny Silk – “Keep Your Love On”

Here’s a quote from page 25 about Powerful People:

“If you heard someone described as a powerful person, you might assume he or she would be the loudest person in the room, the one telling everyone else what to do. But powerful does not mean dominating. In fact, a controlling, dominating person is the very opposite of a powerful person.

“Powerful people do not try to control other people. They know it doesn’t work, and that it’s not their job. Their job is to control themselves.”

Get the book. I know you’ll love it!

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HAVE A GREAT DAY (and drive safely)!

Signature, Shauna

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Today is DAY 7 of the 31 Day Challenge, and I am using it to explore UNFORCED RHYTHMS OF GRACE—how to live an amazing life without burning out or losing my joy.

Button - Unforced Rhythms

Am I perfect at this? Definitely not, but I’m on a mission to do it better. Thank you for joining me on this journey!

You know the drill… Five minutes of free writing, no editing, and then let the creativity flow. // marks the start and stop of the timer.

Today’s prompt word was EXCUSE, and we are linking up with the writers over at Five Minute Friday and Crystal Stine’s Write 31 Days.

 

To read more 31 DAYS OF UNFORCED RHYTHMS, click here!