The Many Faces of Friendship

Friendship is a fantastic thing!

But how can we define it in five short minutes? It’s impossible. Each relationship is unique. I am one type of friend to some, and to others something else. Not two-faced but unique in the various expressions of friendship.

The awesome thing is that we don’t have to choose to be just one type of friend… WE CAN BE ALL OF THEM, at different times and in different situations, to the various people around us.

Here are the Many Faces of Friendship that we get to wear!

// The Social Media Friend. Whether on FB or Twitter, Instagram or Snapchat, these are the ‘friends’ who follow you and are interested in what you think is beautiful.

The Following Friend – These are even more committed than the social media friends. Like the subscribers to my blog, they care what I have to say and allow me to fill their inbox with my thoughts.

Fun Friends are the ones you call when you want to go out tonight. Movie, coffee, dinner, shopping… “Whatcha doin’? Wanna go out?”

Intimate Friends go even deeper than that. They are the relationships where you share your heart, your dreams, your struggles, and your deepest thoughts.

Accountability Friends are the people you trust so much that you allow them to ask you the hard questions. They keep you from doing stupid things.

Kick-Me-in-the-Butt Friends are those brave souls who risk the friendship to tell you what you need to hear, not just you want to hear, so that you don’t sabotage or sidetrack your future.

Cheerleader Friends are the ones who always see the best in you and praise it. They make you feel great about yourself.

Encouraging Friends are those who notice when you are down and know just what to say to build you up again. They keep you from quitting.

Praying Friends are the ones you call while you’re on your way to the hospital. You call them first because you know they’ll actually pray. //

Help-Me-Out-in-a-Pinch Friends are the ones you call when the moving company cancels on you and moving day is Saturday. Ugh!

Go-the-Extra-Mile Friends are the ones who long stay after the party guests have left to help clear dishes and load the dishwasher. Better yet, they are also the ones who come early to help you cut veggies for the veggie platter.

Unexpected-Thoughtfulness Friends are those who send you a note or text just to say, “I’m thinking about you today. How are you?” It’s even better when they include a prayer, a compliment, flowers, or chocolate.

I-Believe-in-You Friends are those who see past your current situation and your current emotional state and say, “I see your potential. Have you ever considered doing this for a living? You could totally do it!”

I-Enjoy-Your-Company Friends don’t need an explanation. We just like being together. We share similar interests, and it doesn’t take a lot of energy to be with them.

Same-Season Friends are those with whom you share common interests because you are in the same season of life. Mommy groups are a great example.

Catch-Up-Where-We-Left-Off Friends. There are just some relationships that survive great time and distance. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since we’ve seen each other, it feels like yesterday.



Friendships come in many shapes and sizes. How many of these faces can you wear today? Click To Tweet

P.S. I know there are many more types of friendship than these. Use the comments below to add your thoughts.


Every Friday, I join an inspiring group of writers to write for FIVE MINUTES on a one-word prompt. No editing. No revising. Just WRITE. This week, the prompt word was FRIEND!

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For more information on Five Minute Friday, check out Kate Motaung’s site!

7 replies
    • Shauna Blaak
      Shauna Blaak says:

      Thanks, Sabrina. How nice to meet you and have you visit today! It’s so true… we have an incredible capacity to love when we lower our guard and let people in.
      Have a great weekend!

  1. annette @ A net in Time
    annette @ A net in Time says:

    these are the friends I treasure: Unexpected-Thoughtfulness Friends are those who send you a note or text just to say, “I’m thinking about you today. How are you?” It’s even better when they include a prayer, a compliment, flowers, or chocolate. I need me more of these friendships. 🙂

    #14 on FMF

    • Shauna Blaak
      Shauna Blaak says:

      I agree! And I need to become that friend more often. Especially combining that with the Encouraging Friend and able to recognise when someone needs that unexpected note the most.
      Have a great weekend, Annette! 🙂

  2. Debby
    Debby says:

    Seems we are of the same mind on this Shauna. You fleshed it out more than I but I echo how thankful I am for all these parts of friendships.

  3. Sarah
    Sarah says:

    I have so many of those same friends….and I am that friend for people. But I especially love the Encouraging Friend and the Praying Friend. I have a few of those and they are SO PRECIOUS to me!

  4. Stephanie Thompson
    Stephanie Thompson says:

    Shauna, I enjoy your descriptions of the many faces we wear. The long believed perception of the “best” friend can leave one searching endlessly for that sister. For some, that relationship may exist but for many of us, we are blessed to have a circle of friends who each enhance our lives in different ways. We ourselves do that for others. There is freedom in that. It relieves us of unnecessary guilt when seasonal friendships become more distant as our lives change. New friends move in for all involved and we are the better for it. I am number #49 at the FMF linkup.


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