Fear is a Bully (plus a bonus video)

// OK, so can I be honest? This word—SAFE—has been much harder to write about than I expected.

Not because I don’t also desire with all my heart to be safe, stay safe, and keep my kids safe, but for a long time, safety was my god.

I mean, SAFETY was my god!

I’m ashamed to actually write that; it looks even more stupid written in black and white. How can a mature, intelligent woman of God even admit that?

But it’s true. I didn’t want to do ANYTHING that would put us in danger… even if it was God doing the asking. “Move to South Africa? Are you crazy?”

Why was I so desperate to live a small, SAFE existence? It’s simple…


That’s why. Fear was my constant companion and daily tormentor.

  • Fear that one of my children would get hurt, or kidnapped, or killed.
  • Fear of a car crash, plane crash, or swimming accident.
  • Fear of spiders, snakes, sharks, or robbers.
  • Fear that the economy would collapse and leave us financially ruined.
  • Fear that cancer would knock on our door and take one of us away.
  • Fear of loneliness.
  • Fear of burnout.
  • Or worse yet, fear of insignificance.

But the truth is… I had fear because I didn’t REALLY understand WHO I WAS or WHO MY FATHER WAS. 

1 John 4:18 says,

Perfect Love Casts Out All Fear.

What does that mean? Well, I think it means that ‘perfect love casts out all fear.’ (duhhh)//

When we truly understand how kind and generous, strong and powerful God is, the ‘little’ things we fear lose their grip on our minds and hearts.

When a child understands that their dad is WAAAAAAY bigger than the bully down the street, they lose their fear of that bully.

Yes, Fear is a bully.

Fear was my bully, but fear has been gradually losing its grip on my life a little bit each day for the last ten years.

Because when the bigness of my God overwhelms the fearful thoughts in my mind, then I can truly understand that


Fear is a bully, but our Father is bigger than that bully. And in HIM, we are perfectly SAFE! Click To Tweet


All morning, as I’ve been meditating on this word ‘Safe,’ and wondering why it’s so difficult to organize my thoughts about it, the lyrics from the song “Oceans” have been playing over and over through my mind.

Sing the bridge with me…

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

Let me walk upon the water

Wherever You would call me

Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander

And my faith will be made stronger

In the presence of my Saviour

Enjoy! (my favourite part is around 5:10 mark)

Only in this place of His Presence will we find ourselves perfectly SAFE!

Thank You, Father!


Every Friday, I join an inspiring group of writers to write for FIVE MINUTES on a one-word prompt. No editing. No revising. Just WRITE. This week, the prompt word was SAFE.

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For more information on Five Minute Friday, check out Kate Motaung’s site!